The broken heart is one of the worse non physical disease.We all been with this, and some of us take it easy, some of us take it much harder, and some never get over it...
But it gives us a lesson. This teach us, how to make the next partner much happier, and much better, and be careful about who we are picking, for being our man. But still, there is never guarabtee what we are going to choose...
Mostly, i hate when someone break your heart, and BYE.. like you never exist for them. They start to treat you like you are some stranger, and never give you the answers you look for... Also i HATE when guy cheat and blame the partner in everything, just his guilt to be more handled. Most of the cases of broken heart comes from betrayal, and cheating. Sadly almost every gay man i know is gone thru this.
There is a group i despise, and its the ungrateful gay man. In all the relationship they been "me, me, me" and never cared for their partner, now matter how hard he work, to make his queen happy... so selfish, i can say...
The broken hearts, often can be broken for years. Those types of guys, make every next relationship disaster. They waste time of others, and think that they are going to get over their exes, but what they do, is falling in their own trap... looking for security after break-up is the WORSE thing you would do, and all you will gain is enemies than friends. The best thing people should do, to move on is some kind of therapy, which could help, at least partly.
But the best therapy is the self therapy. When you don't want to move on, even the best therapy in the world will not help you. Everything starts from the big "I"...
I always felt respect to guys who get it together. After a break-up they handle it together, change their lives, and move on.. like its been a bad dream. But in the end of the day, on closed doors, with the mirrors home.. they become vulnerable. I know when darkness falls, its WORSE. But at least they doesn't put their break-up like "The subject" of the next 6 months.
There is always two way fault in a break up. The difficult thing is, to find out your fault, and try to address it, and fix those issues IT HURTS, YES..... We know, guys always bale their partner for everything, but if we can be more observant, there always have logical explanation and reason for happening this break-up...
But it gets better...
In my experience after breaking up there is 3 stages " Sadness, Anger, and Accepting...
There is guys who stay on the 1, or 2 (WORSE CASE, they stay bitter all their lives!!!!)
I often blamed my exes for every failure in relationships. My excuse was "Oh my, in my last relationship i lost all my trust, i cannot trust easy, i been hurt, blah blah blah"... Until one day i found out, that actually I wasn't changed, since last breakup, and all i done is, to blame the world for my failures, and punish every guy, and sweetheart, who come my way, just because my last relationship didn't work..... and i had to change, because not everybody is that worse. And accept that an ex is an ex for a reason. So, instead beating myself over
my past, was going to make me empty and bitter person... So i had to do one thing.. to forgive myself....
And trust me:
The MOST hard thing is to forgive yourself. Once you reach peace with your innerself, u can live in peace with others. Same with the broken heart. You gotta realize your faults. Crying over someone, for YEARS make you vulnerable for others. The best is, when we realize our issues, and fix them, we will find out, that... WE DESERVE BETTER!
Sound logical, right?
But it gives us a lesson. This teach us, how to make the next partner much happier, and much better, and be careful about who we are picking, for being our man. But still, there is never guarabtee what we are going to choose...
Mostly, i hate when someone break your heart, and BYE.. like you never exist for them. They start to treat you like you are some stranger, and never give you the answers you look for... Also i HATE when guy cheat and blame the partner in everything, just his guilt to be more handled. Most of the cases of broken heart comes from betrayal, and cheating. Sadly almost every gay man i know is gone thru this.There is a group i despise, and its the ungrateful gay man. In all the relationship they been "me, me, me" and never cared for their partner, now matter how hard he work, to make his queen happy... so selfish, i can say...
The broken hearts, often can be broken for years. Those types of guys, make every next relationship disaster. They waste time of others, and think that they are going to get over their exes, but what they do, is falling in their own trap... looking for security after break-up is the WORSE thing you would do, and all you will gain is enemies than friends. The best thing people should do, to move on is some kind of therapy, which could help, at least partly.
But the best therapy is the self therapy. When you don't want to move on, even the best therapy in the world will not help you. Everything starts from the big "I"...
I always felt respect to guys who get it together. After a break-up they handle it together, change their lives, and move on.. like its been a bad dream. But in the end of the day, on closed doors, with the mirrors home.. they become vulnerable. I know when darkness falls, its WORSE. But at least they doesn't put their break-up like "The subject" of the next 6 months.
There is always two way fault in a break up. The difficult thing is, to find out your fault, and try to address it, and fix those issues IT HURTS, YES..... We know, guys always bale their partner for everything, but if we can be more observant, there always have logical explanation and reason for happening this break-up...
But it gets better...
In my experience after breaking up there is 3 stages " Sadness, Anger, and Accepting...
There is guys who stay on the 1, or 2 (WORSE CASE, they stay bitter all their lives!!!!)
I often blamed my exes for every failure in relationships. My excuse was "Oh my, in my last relationship i lost all my trust, i cannot trust easy, i been hurt, blah blah blah"... Until one day i found out, that actually I wasn't changed, since last breakup, and all i done is, to blame the world for my failures, and punish every guy, and sweetheart, who come my way, just because my last relationship didn't work..... and i had to change, because not everybody is that worse. And accept that an ex is an ex for a reason. So, instead beating myself over
my past, was going to make me empty and bitter person... So i had to do one thing.. to forgive myself....
And trust me:
The MOST hard thing is to forgive yourself. Once you reach peace with your innerself, u can live in peace with others. Same with the broken heart. You gotta realize your faults. Crying over someone, for YEARS make you vulnerable for others. The best is, when we realize our issues, and fix them, we will find out, that... WE DESERVE BETTER!
Sound logical, right?
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