Open/closed relationships-compromises, or not

For centuries, people always accepted the idea of "couple" as devotion, loyalty, and sacred love and relationship between 2 people. In front of the society, everything is perfect, the couple demonstrate wonderful image, a perfect love, the "We" therm, ignoring the individuality, forgetting what exactly means to be INDIVIDUAL.
Until the doors home close, and everything become obvious....
People always say that "Honesty" is the best way to keep a relationship alive, but seems not always.
There is ALWAYS a trust issue.
Cheating is the biggest fear for the closed relationships...
But the honesty always is blade with 2 sharp edges...
There is always a danger of 3nd person, for which one, of the "We" decide, that cannot resists this individual, who is outside the relationship...

What happens afterwards?

"I was drunk", "I didn't know how this happened", "I'm sorry it was not meant to happen" is little of the answers we get OFTEN after we find out...
But it's the same if they come and say "Honey, i have something to tell you, i happened to have sex with him"...

So, why a lot people need the "Honesty" in a relationship, when if they get honest answer, they will still be hurt? So we have to forget the idea of honesty. The option "Honesty" not always work, when it comes to closed relationship.  But there should have compromises, and ability to forgive.
I do not believe that your partner sleeping with your best friend and being honest about it, will hurt less... so if you choose option "Closed relationship" u gotta know how to expect the unexpected.
Whats love has to do with it, as Tina made it famous song. Love is love, you have thousands of options to love someone, not matter sex, relationship or whatever. Sex is another thing, and here comes the open relationships. personally, they are more logical or reasonable. Some individuals cannot give their partners all the sexual pleasure they need. Especially ones with some fetish...
But still, open relationship is like your partner cheat on you and you allow it and u are okay about this. But the risk is, that your partner can get addicted to "someone else", for some obvious features, and one day BAM... they both get the couple type "We did'nt had sex for 5 years.. he didn't touch me at all, we are like roomates"...
I know cases in open relationship couple, the one met another guy, they fell in love and now they have CLOSED relationship. Strange...

So, relationships are complicated... me personally I prefer closed relationship, but without the big expectations, and the "Honesty"... for a straight forward guy, honesty is always in my mouth.. but what about the partner iam with... and Honesty is not guarantee for successful long therm relationship... what if iam the one who cheat? Compromises also has a limit...


So we come back to the compromises again? Open relationships is what we could call a REAL compromise, the closed are "Once you make a mistake, im done with you", which miss the real compromise....
The funny is that some couples have "Open relationships" without the knowledge of the other.. LOL

So, every couple, there is moment they face... where are we now.. what is gonna happen from now on...